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a new direction, an old focus

Although I have a bachelor’s degree in Computer Information Systems and started a business ( Julie’s Simple Web Solutions ), I find myself going in a new direction. One day I stood in front of my book case, it was filled with expensive computer books. I asked the Lord to give me direction. What was I to do with all these expensive books now that I was again a SAHM?

My time at CenturyLink allowed me to meet some really good programmers and see what it would take to be one. I knew that I would NOT have the time to devote to studying the skills I would need to do that. But here I am with this expensive education and in need of provision.

The Lord brought back to my remembrance the original vision for Moms’ Survival Guide: Providential Homemaking. So I will study and pray and allow the Lord to direct me as I seek to do His Will with the resources He has given me.

And the Lord said to him, What is that in your hand? -Exodus 4:2

A Broom of One’s Own by Nancy Peacock

Last night I read A Broom of One’s Own by Nancy Peacock in one sitting. I almost never do this – mainly because I still have six children and one very rambunctious puppy at home.

But this book resonated with the me as I believe it will with many other authors, published and unpublished. In it you can feel the hope and frustrations of Nancy’s spirit as she struggles to live in the real world while she also struggles with her literary worlds.

The essays are so matter of fact and yet so meditative. I love the way that Nancy was able to bring me along with her as she cleans, muses, fumes.

Although I know that Nancy would approve hardily of the fact that I found her book while browsing the shelves of my small local library, I fully intend to buy a copy of this book as soon as I can so that I can drag out my yellow crayon and favorite black pen and put sticky note book marks all the way through it.

Name your wages.

Genesis 30:28 God says to me: “Then he said, “Name me your wages, and I will give it.”

Wait a minute, you may think. Laban said that to Jacob. But I know that God says it to me because He also says in First Corinthians 9:8-10: “Do I say these things as a mere man? Or does not the law say the same also? For it is written in the law of Moses, “You shall not muzzle an ox while it treads out the grain.” Is it oxen God is concerned about? Or does He say it altogether for our sakes? For our sakes, no doubt, this is written, that he who plows should plow in hope, and he who threshes in hope should be partaker of his hope.”

You may think I have taken an obscure verse and made it to mean what I want it to mean. But many times throughout the New Testament, Jesus and Paul quote “obscure” verses and apply it to their own lives and the lives of those they taught.

God says in 2 Timothy 3:16-17, “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

Furthermore I have a testimony that I declared the wages I wanted to receive when I applied for an internship and the letter I received two months later confirming the internship, also confirmed the exact dollar amount that I had declared.

Dream big, Believe God and Speak the Word out loud.

Your Habits: Friend or Foe

“Sometimes beginning to live the Christian life and walk the victory walk is like an episode I saw of Third Rock from the Sun.

In this episode, Dick hits a chipmunk and is riddled in guilt [the young Christian begins his new walk riddled with guilt and condemnation]. He decides that his way of life must change so that no animal will ever again be hurt because of him or his companions.

He has authority over his roommates so he forces them to rid their lives of products that may have caused pain to animals [the young Christian trys to rid his life of all sin or what he considers to be sinful activities]

This is far more difficult than he anticipated as he had not realized the extent to which animal byproducts (shoes, pesticides for the ants, ham sandwiches, fur coats) had invaded his life and the life of his companions and he also has not anticipated that some of his companions (fellow employees) would not want to cooperate with his efforts to rid the world of these vices. [Sound familiar, little Christian?]

As some of his companions refuse his demands all together [what?! I like my surf and turf] and the others irritate each other with pointing out the minutest failings they perceive in each other’s attempts to meet the standards [can anyone say legalism, denominational rifts, etc.?] Dick begins to realize how much he himself will have to give up, i.e.; suffer for his cause.

And what if his efforts prove futile, which they do (chippy is eaten by a hawk when he has recovered and is released to the wild. Dick then kills the hawk while defending the chipmunk.)

He is unable to continue in his extremist efforts and so caves to his peers and underlings -sitting down to eat meat in a fog of pesticide.

Many times, young Christians in their extremist efforts to become all that they desire to become for the Lord, in the noblest of efforts to conform to their idea of what the image of Christ really is, forget that they cannot ride on the whims of emotion for long.

What goes up- must come down and so it is with ‘feelings’- the mountain of elation is often followed by descent into the valley of despair.

Having not been able to accomplish it all, they throw in the towel and backslide or at least come to a wrenching halt in their progress. Instead we must as more ‘perfect’ [defined as mature in vines * ] Christians, guide them into the more gradual process of replacing wrong language with right language, walking in faith instead of feelings, and moving toward the happy medium.

God has promised to bring mountains down and valleys up and to guide us in the straight [defined as level] path. Christ has done the work for us and made the yoke easy but progress is made line upon line, precept upon precept.

Precept by precept, line upon line, here a little, there a little… Isa. 28:10

It was the way I finally began to lose weight when all the diets failed to produce any visible progress. I started over and tried only one thing at a time, and I let Christ help me with that one thing. I replaced sodas with water. Then when that had become old hat, a habit, I began drinking enough water, at least 4 bottles [20 oz] daily. As that became automatic, I replaced a menu item such as fried chicken with a grilled chicken breast. Over time, I learned to push away a plate -very difficult if you were raised during the ‘clean plate club’ era- before I felt full. It felt good although it was months later when I finally stepped on the scale and it no longer swung well past 150 but stopped short of that mark. And the best part was I hardly worked at it.

Habits can be friends instead of taskmasters. [Charlotte Mason reference needed here.] The Formation of Habit

Help young Christians keep walking by slowing down the pace without dampening the enthusiasm. Let their enthusiasm rub off on you and inspire you while you teach them temperance [self-control]. God has promised that those who diligently seek him WILL be rewarded and we are. But diligently doesn’t mean working harder- it means not to ever quit.

If you become diligent, you will find persistence becomes a habit. And if you are persistent, you will get past the first faltering steps of the victory walk to run well the race that is yours for the prize that is set before you.

The Lazy Housewife

In order to be TRULY a lazy housewife, you have to get your house to the point that… well you know, -like that Rice Krispies treats commercial -where the woman pretends she’s working hard and she’s really reading and lounging.

What the commercial doesn’t show is the setup. Set-up is essential to household peace but you can’t go from chaos to peace overnite, especially if you’re living in squalor. But you can achieve it ‘bird by bird’ as famous author, Ann

Lamott would say. 

“E.L. Doctorow said once said that ‘Writing a novel is like driving a car at night. You can see only as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.’ You don’t have to see where you’re going, you don’t have to see your destination or everything you will pass along the way. You just have to see two or three feet ahead of you. This is right up there with the best advice on writing, or life, I have ever heard.”
Anne Lamott (Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life)

 You just have to clear one spot at a time.

In the beginning you might have to work five advancement days a week but not hour to hour. That would make you give up right away. You wouldn’t be able to see the forest for the trees, or as in this case you won’t be able to find your socks in the huge pile of mixed up clean and dirty and donated laundry.

So you work a couple hours, take an hour or even two to gel in front of the computer or television, whichever is your bag, then work some more. The gel time is the reward for the work time. Slowly you progress. You can find socks every day now and all the children have been trained to put their shoes on the front porch. So you move to M-W-F work weeks.

Eventually, with your steady plodding you get to Tu-Th Weeks! Yes, literally a two day work week.

The bad news is you HAVE to really work on advancement days and you have to maintain on the maintenance days or you will go back to squalor.. The good news is that nobody and I mean nobody, even dear hubby, really has to know you’re not slaving away to keep your home cozy only TWO days a week.

The rest of the time you’re breezing through little routines that have become habits that are as easy as driving on automatic pilot. Every body has done that that drives. You know what I mean, when you start home from work and get to thinking about the to-do list or your friend who wants to go to lunch tomorrow or you’re listening to that new Joyce Meyer partner tape and getting a real revelation. The next thing you know, you’re pulling in your driveway and hanging up the keys.

You don’t know how you got there but you got there smoothly. It was no work at all. And home-making can be that way once the set-up is done.

Set-up means everything has to have a place, even the children’s routines. They have to know what is expected. I even explain the two day advancement theory to them. Real life examples come in handy.

I sat at the computer the other day almost the entire day. The children were uncooperative and I wanted to write anyway. Dear hubby called and said hello, dear. on my way home. need some milk? etc? yes, dear, thanks so much. mmwah [kiss] see ya in a minit. Get up, yell, let’s clean up -Daddy’s on his way. Got the visual area clean really fast with every body hopping.

Dad comes in and says, wow ya’ll worked hard all day. I smile. the kids go play.

Next day, advancement day: do you remember yesterday? when dad thought we worked soooo hard?…

What’s in the refrigerator today?

* means it was transferred to the DEEP FREEZER

RIGHT REFRIGERATOR

FIRST SHELF:
3 boxes of Beech Nut oatmeal cereal (Mikayla, my granddaughter, stays with Mamaw when Mama works)
Baby food basket with jars of baby food
7 bottles 2 oz. Pedialyte unflavored oral electrolyte maintenance solution
2 cans great value buttermilk biscuits
1 dozen large eggs

SECOND SHELF:
CHEESES:
Sara Lee Monterey Jack & Jalapeno cheese 20 thin slices 8 oz.
Wisconsin Cheese collection containing Jalapeno Jack, Colby Jack, Swiss, Salsa Cheddar Continue reading

Goals category

This category will contain short-term and long-term and in-between goals. The free dictionary defines the word goal as “the purpose toward which an endeavor is directed; an objective.” The goals may be my personal goals or the goals for this blog. It may also contain steps or to-do lists that are required to reach a goal.

This entry was posted on August 30, 2010, in Inform, Plan.

Monday Supper Plans

The tentative plan was to grill sausage, hamburgers, weiners and leg quarters. Also to make potato salad, deviled eggs, barbecued beans and coleslaw. BUT… we clean out refrigerators on Monday. The plan now is to eat ALL possible leftovers that might otherwise ruin!

I’ll let you know how this works out. As for today, we ate at Podnuh’s with Melissa for lunch and had a bowl of cereal for supper because the girls are sleeping at Melissa’s house.

To-Do Monday, August 30

Pick up girls from Melissas
Clean the master bedroom.
Laundry: Allens, Julies, towels
Deposit money in bank for bills
Find shopping lists, articles, etc. to add to MSG blog
Contact Memorial website owners
Put out the solar lights
Recreate the fountain
Consolidate my student loans
Update all my blogs and check my Twitter account well, one blog & Twitter
Throw something away! De-clutter!
CLEAN the refrigerators
Finish this week’s menu
Update Bill Board

Dream Job, check!

Every day as I drove to school, I would look at that big beautiful CenturyTel building. One day, I had a vision as I was driving by the building that I was looking at my truck parked in the CenturyTel parking lot- and I was seeing it from INSIDE the building. I looked down from the third floor window, just under the arch and I could see the truck parked beneath a specific pecan tree and I could see Denmon Engineering’s building in the distance.

Wow. I was so excited. I began imagining driving into the lot, almost every single day as I went to school or came home. I could see myself holding a container with Jackie’s famous “Grilled Chicken Salad” in it and looking out that window. I could see myself walking through the big front entryway. I could see myself strolling along the concrete walkway that wound through the pecan trees to the building’s front door.

When my professor told me to apply for an internship at CenturyTel, I didn’t want to do it. I couldn’t see myself knowing enough to get an internship. I wondered how I would finish school if I was “working” and worried what impression it would make if I applied and then failed. But he insisted so I did.

I talked to the interviewers and waited. Oh, well.

Later, I applied again. I was different. More confident but still didn’t know how I would “work” and go to school. This time I had that vision in my head of pulling in the driveway and walking in the building. I told the interviewers when they asked about my plans for the future: I want to be at CenturyTel!

Hooray! I got the internship. BETTER YET- it’s absolutely PERFECT. I’m in the web development department and getting know the wonderful people there. The team is AWESOME. They are really busy but they take the time to show me how things get done and they are giving me tasks to make me feel like I am useful and part of the team. Our team leader is very nice and has given me the option of flexibility in my schedule so I can continue to do well in school, too.

I tell everyone that you know you are at the right place if you would go there EVEN IF they didn’t pay you. I would – but they DO pay me! GOD IS SO GLORIOUS! Thanks, Heavenly Father.

This entry was posted on April 12, 2008, in Journal, Plan.