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a new direction, an old focus

Although I have a bachelor’s degree in Computer Information Systems and started a business ( Julie’s Simple Web Solutions ), I find myself going in a new direction. One day I stood in front of my book case, it was filled with expensive computer books. I asked the Lord to give me direction. What was I to do with all these expensive books now that I was again a SAHM?

My time at CenturyLink allowed me to meet some really good programmers and see what it would take to be one. I knew that I would NOT have the time to devote to studying the skills I would need to do that. But here I am with this expensive education and in need of provision.

The Lord brought back to my remembrance the original vision for Moms’ Survival Guide: Providential Homemaking. So I will study and pray and allow the Lord to direct me as I seek to do His Will with the resources He has given me.

And the Lord said to him, What is that in your hand? -Exodus 4:2

A new sink and a new morning!

Thanks to my very wonderful husband for putting in my garage sale find, a stainless steel kitchen sink. He put it in as soon as we got home and you have NO IDEA how much it means to me to have a sink that works better!

Thank you, Allen Ashley, Sr.! I love you and appreciate you.

A Broom of One’s Own by Nancy Peacock

Last night I read A Broom of One’s Own by Nancy Peacock in one sitting. I almost never do this – mainly because I still have six children and one very rambunctious puppy at home.

But this book resonated with the me as I believe it will with many other authors, published and unpublished. In it you can feel the hope and frustrations of Nancy’s spirit as she struggles to live in the real world while she also struggles with her literary worlds.

The essays are so matter of fact and yet so meditative. I love the way that Nancy was able to bring me along with her as she cleans, muses, fumes.

Although I know that Nancy would approve hardily of the fact that I found her book while browsing the shelves of my small local library, I fully intend to buy a copy of this book as soon as I can so that I can drag out my yellow crayon and favorite black pen and put sticky note book marks all the way through it.

In Between Shopping

There are grocery shopping trips and In-between shopping trips. In-between shopping trips always seem to be waaaaaay more expensive and have too many splurge or impulse buying. There are alone trips and together trips. The together trips always seem to be waaaaaaay more expensive. I’m not sure of the psychology that makes this true but I know it is true.

Yesterday Allen did an alone trip and came home with exactly what I asked him to buy. This seems to point the finger of splurging and impulse directly at me. Just thought I’d record this information so that I could re-read it later to myself and hopefully improve my performance in this area.

Anyway, he bought:

(for Bacon, Lettuce and Tomato Sandwiches)

shredded lettuce
3 tomatoes

(for Broccoli Chicken Casserole)
2 cans of cream of chicken soup

(for Staples that had run out)

2 loaves of white bread
1 gallon of milk

Total Cost: $16.45

Today I am going to Re-start with FLY-Lady. Thanks to my very good friend, Sandy Schwoebel Brown, who said on Facebook: Sandy Schwoebel Brown “wants you to know that although you can’t go back and make a brand new start, you can start now and make a brand new end! To begin, PRAY.”

Sorrow and Joy

My life is mixed with sorrow and joy. While some of my relationships improve, others nosedive. While some of my circumstances improve, others degrade. In all things I will trust in HIM.

One of my favorite stories is the story of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. Even when they were threatened with a cruel and unjust death sentence, they knew they could only do one thing… Trust in the One True and Eternal God: Read Daniel 3: 16-

Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, answered and said to the king, O Nebuchadnezzar, we are not careful to answer thee in this matter.

17 If it be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and he will deliver us out of thine hand, O king.

18 But if not, be it known unto thee, O king, that we will not serve thy gods, nor worship the golden image which thou hast set up.

* emphasis added

This entry was posted on October 18, 2010, in Journal.

Love Never Fails. (a very long post studying this Word)

Love. God is Love. Love never fails.

We are memorizing the Bible description of love:

Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud.

That’s this week’s segment to memorize. The children repeat it after me several times, then are called upon to repeat it to me.

The Blue Letter Bible

 http://www.blueletterbible.org/search/translationResults.cfm?Criteria=love&t=KJV

reports that the English word “love” occurs 311 times in 281 verses in the King James Version of the Bible.
In it first occurrance at Genesis 27:4 and its third occurance at Genesis 29:32 it is used as a verb.

This word love is ‘ahab. Gesenius’s Lexicon, used by the Blue Letter Bible to translate the word, defines this word love:

(1)To desire, to Breathe after anything.
(2)To love a friend.
(3)To delight in anything, in doing anything.

Genesis 27:4
And make me savoury meat, such as I <b>love</b> and bring [it] to me, that I may eat; that my soul may bless thee before I die.

Genesis 29:32
And Leah conceived, and bare a son, and she called his name Reuben: for she said, Surely the LORD hath looked upon my affliction; now therefore my husband will love me.

It is here used as a verb.The outline of its Biblical usage:

1) to love

a) (Qal)

1) human love for another, includes family, and sexual

2) human appetite for objects such as food, drink, sleep, wisdom

3) human love for or to God

4) act of being a friend

a) lover (participle)

b) friend (participle)

5) God’s love toward man

a) to individual men

b) to people Israel

c) to righteousness

b) (Niphal)

1) lovely (participle)

2) loveable (participle)

c) (Piel)

1) friends

2) lovers (fig. of adulterers)

2) to like
The outline of its Biblical usage:
1) love

a) human love for human object

1) of man toward man

2) of man toward himself

3) between man and woman

4) sexual desire

2) God’s love to His people

This word love is ‘ahabah.
The LexiConc reports that there are nineteen entries that match “love”.

Let’s skip forward to the New Testament translations from Greek.
There are ten reported uses:

love, beloved
love, charity, dear, charitably, feast of charity
brotherly love, brotherly kindness, love of the brethren
love as brethren
love their husbands
kindness, love toward man
love of money
love, kiss
love to have the preeminence
love (one’s) children.

Since the verse I quote is 1 Corinthians 13:8, let’s look at the translation/meaning of the word in this verse.

The King James Version of the Bible says:

Charity never faileth…

Charity, agape, denotes affection, good-will, love, benevolence. This is also the version of the word used in 1 John 4:8, “God is Love.”

Vine’s expository dictionary of new testament words has this to note:

In the two statements in 1Jo 4:8, 16, “God is love,” both are used to enjoin the exercise of “love” on the part of believers. While the former introduces a declaration of the mode in which God’s love has been manifested (1Jo 4:9, 10), the second introduces a statement of the identification of believers with God in character, and the issue at the Judgment Seat hereafter (1Jo 4:17), an identification represented ideally in the sentence “as He is, so are we in this world.”

Never is used in the Authorized Version of the King James as never, neither at any time and nothing at any time. An adverb defined by Strong’s as denying

absolutely and objectively- not ever.

Fails – Vines has this note about the word translated as fails:

Fall, Fallen, Falling, Fell:

“to fall out of” (ek, “out,” and No. 1), “is used in the NT, literally, of flowers that wither in the course of nature, Jam 1:11; 1Pe 1:24; of a ship not under control, Act 27:17, 26, 29, 32; of shackles loosed from a prisoner’s wrist, Act 12:7; figuratively, of the Word of God (the expression of His purpose), which cannot “fall” away from the end to which it is set, Rom 9:6; of the believer who is warned lest he “fall” away from the course in which he has been confirmed by the Word of God, 2Pe 3:17.”

* [* From Notes on Galatians, by Hogg and Vine, p. 242.] So of those who seek to be justified by law, Gal 5:4, “ye are fallen away from grace.”

July 4, 2004 Devotion: Love, not fear, draws us to God & we CAN know His will

It is the goodness of God that leadeth to repentance:
Romans 2:4
Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance?

Not fear of punishment, because
1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear; for fear has torment, and he that fears has not been made perfect in love.

and
1 John 4:16
And we have known and have believed the love which God has to us. God is love, and he that abides in love abides in God, and God in him.

We can know the will of the Lord.
Ephesians 5:9
Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.

Name your wages.

Genesis 30:28 God says to me: “Then he said, “Name me your wages, and I will give it.”

Wait a minute, you may think. Laban said that to Jacob. But I know that God says it to me because He also says in First Corinthians 9:8-10: “Do I say these things as a mere man? Or does not the law say the same also? For it is written in the law of Moses, “You shall not muzzle an ox while it treads out the grain.” Is it oxen God is concerned about? Or does He say it altogether for our sakes? For our sakes, no doubt, this is written, that he who plows should plow in hope, and he who threshes in hope should be partaker of his hope.”

You may think I have taken an obscure verse and made it to mean what I want it to mean. But many times throughout the New Testament, Jesus and Paul quote “obscure” verses and apply it to their own lives and the lives of those they taught.

God says in 2 Timothy 3:16-17, “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

Furthermore I have a testimony that I declared the wages I wanted to receive when I applied for an internship and the letter I received two months later confirming the internship, also confirmed the exact dollar amount that I had declared.

Dream big, Believe God and Speak the Word out loud.

Your Habits: Friend or Foe

“Sometimes beginning to live the Christian life and walk the victory walk is like an episode I saw of Third Rock from the Sun.

In this episode, Dick hits a chipmunk and is riddled in guilt [the young Christian begins his new walk riddled with guilt and condemnation]. He decides that his way of life must change so that no animal will ever again be hurt because of him or his companions.

He has authority over his roommates so he forces them to rid their lives of products that may have caused pain to animals [the young Christian trys to rid his life of all sin or what he considers to be sinful activities]

This is far more difficult than he anticipated as he had not realized the extent to which animal byproducts (shoes, pesticides for the ants, ham sandwiches, fur coats) had invaded his life and the life of his companions and he also has not anticipated that some of his companions (fellow employees) would not want to cooperate with his efforts to rid the world of these vices. [Sound familiar, little Christian?]

As some of his companions refuse his demands all together [what?! I like my surf and turf] and the others irritate each other with pointing out the minutest failings they perceive in each other’s attempts to meet the standards [can anyone say legalism, denominational rifts, etc.?] Dick begins to realize how much he himself will have to give up, i.e.; suffer for his cause.

And what if his efforts prove futile, which they do (chippy is eaten by a hawk when he has recovered and is released to the wild. Dick then kills the hawk while defending the chipmunk.)

He is unable to continue in his extremist efforts and so caves to his peers and underlings -sitting down to eat meat in a fog of pesticide.

Many times, young Christians in their extremist efforts to become all that they desire to become for the Lord, in the noblest of efforts to conform to their idea of what the image of Christ really is, forget that they cannot ride on the whims of emotion for long.

What goes up- must come down and so it is with ‘feelings’- the mountain of elation is often followed by descent into the valley of despair.

Having not been able to accomplish it all, they throw in the towel and backslide or at least come to a wrenching halt in their progress. Instead we must as more ‘perfect’ [defined as mature in vines * ] Christians, guide them into the more gradual process of replacing wrong language with right language, walking in faith instead of feelings, and moving toward the happy medium.

God has promised to bring mountains down and valleys up and to guide us in the straight [defined as level] path. Christ has done the work for us and made the yoke easy but progress is made line upon line, precept upon precept.

Precept by precept, line upon line, here a little, there a little… Isa. 28:10

It was the way I finally began to lose weight when all the diets failed to produce any visible progress. I started over and tried only one thing at a time, and I let Christ help me with that one thing. I replaced sodas with water. Then when that had become old hat, a habit, I began drinking enough water, at least 4 bottles [20 oz] daily. As that became automatic, I replaced a menu item such as fried chicken with a grilled chicken breast. Over time, I learned to push away a plate -very difficult if you were raised during the ‘clean plate club’ era- before I felt full. It felt good although it was months later when I finally stepped on the scale and it no longer swung well past 150 but stopped short of that mark. And the best part was I hardly worked at it.

Habits can be friends instead of taskmasters. [Charlotte Mason reference needed here.] The Formation of Habit

Help young Christians keep walking by slowing down the pace without dampening the enthusiasm. Let their enthusiasm rub off on you and inspire you while you teach them temperance [self-control]. God has promised that those who diligently seek him WILL be rewarded and we are. But diligently doesn’t mean working harder- it means not to ever quit.

If you become diligent, you will find persistence becomes a habit. And if you are persistent, you will get past the first faltering steps of the victory walk to run well the race that is yours for the prize that is set before you.

The Lazy Housewife

In order to be TRULY a lazy housewife, you have to get your house to the point that… well you know, -like that Rice Krispies treats commercial -where the woman pretends she’s working hard and she’s really reading and lounging.

What the commercial doesn’t show is the setup. Set-up is essential to household peace but you can’t go from chaos to peace overnite, especially if you’re living in squalor. But you can achieve it ‘bird by bird’ as famous author, Ann

Lamott would say. 

“E.L. Doctorow said once said that ‘Writing a novel is like driving a car at night. You can see only as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.’ You don’t have to see where you’re going, you don’t have to see your destination or everything you will pass along the way. You just have to see two or three feet ahead of you. This is right up there with the best advice on writing, or life, I have ever heard.”
Anne Lamott (Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life)

 You just have to clear one spot at a time.

In the beginning you might have to work five advancement days a week but not hour to hour. That would make you give up right away. You wouldn’t be able to see the forest for the trees, or as in this case you won’t be able to find your socks in the huge pile of mixed up clean and dirty and donated laundry.

So you work a couple hours, take an hour or even two to gel in front of the computer or television, whichever is your bag, then work some more. The gel time is the reward for the work time. Slowly you progress. You can find socks every day now and all the children have been trained to put their shoes on the front porch. So you move to M-W-F work weeks.

Eventually, with your steady plodding you get to Tu-Th Weeks! Yes, literally a two day work week.

The bad news is you HAVE to really work on advancement days and you have to maintain on the maintenance days or you will go back to squalor.. The good news is that nobody and I mean nobody, even dear hubby, really has to know you’re not slaving away to keep your home cozy only TWO days a week.

The rest of the time you’re breezing through little routines that have become habits that are as easy as driving on automatic pilot. Every body has done that that drives. You know what I mean, when you start home from work and get to thinking about the to-do list or your friend who wants to go to lunch tomorrow or you’re listening to that new Joyce Meyer partner tape and getting a real revelation. The next thing you know, you’re pulling in your driveway and hanging up the keys.

You don’t know how you got there but you got there smoothly. It was no work at all. And home-making can be that way once the set-up is done.

Set-up means everything has to have a place, even the children’s routines. They have to know what is expected. I even explain the two day advancement theory to them. Real life examples come in handy.

I sat at the computer the other day almost the entire day. The children were uncooperative and I wanted to write anyway. Dear hubby called and said hello, dear. on my way home. need some milk? etc? yes, dear, thanks so much. mmwah [kiss] see ya in a minit. Get up, yell, let’s clean up -Daddy’s on his way. Got the visual area clean really fast with every body hopping.

Dad comes in and says, wow ya’ll worked hard all day. I smile. the kids go play.

Next day, advancement day: do you remember yesterday? when dad thought we worked soooo hard?…